Get Over It: The Leadership Breakthrough we Avoid
Dec 18, 2025
The One Thing That Holds Us Back-
Every leader—no matter their rank, title, or years of experience—has one thing that clings to their mind like a shadow. A mistake we can't shake. A relationship that fell apart. A decision we regret. A moment we wish we could rewrite. Something we still blame ourselves for. These moments take up mental real estate, rob us of clarity, stall our confidence, and quietly interfere with our ability to grow forward and lead well. In your "Get Over It" video, you remind us of something simple but powerful: that "one thing" doesn't deserve the power we keep giving it.
The Heavy Story We Keep Telling Ourselves-
Leaders are some of the most self-critical people on the planet. We replay old conversations, second-guess decisions, and rehearse embarrassing or painful moments long after they're gone. The truth is this: the event isn't what holds you back—the story you keep telling yourself about it is. That story becomes a limiter. It becomes hesitation, fear, and the quiet voice that whispers, "You're not enough. Don't try again. Don't risk it." Without realizing it, we allow one moment to influence many moments that follow.
Give Yourself the Break You Deserve-
At some point, you must give yourself the same grace you'd give anyone else on your team. If someone you care about made a mistake, you'd encourage them: "You're better than that moment. Stand back up." "You're not defined by the worst ten seconds of your life." "That's not who you are—that's something that happened." Yet when it comes to ourselves, we hold on. We judge, we punish, we replay. Leadership begins inside, and if you want to grow, you must allow yourself the space to move forward. That starts with giving yourself a break.
Forgive Yourself and Move On-
Forgiveness doesn't erase the past—it releases the hold the past has on you. You're not excusing what happened; you're choosing not to stay stuck in it. Forgive the mistake. Forgive the decision. Forgive the version of you who didn't know what you know now. Then—and this is the key—move. Forward. Upward. Onward. Momentum returns the moment you stop looking backward.
The Hard Truth: Get the Hell Over It-
Sometimes the most honest leadership advice is the simplest: get the hell over it. Not because it wasn't painful or didn't matter, but because you matter more. Your future matters more. Your mission matters more. You cannot lead effectively while chained to yesterday. You cannot inspire others while quietly carrying shame. You cannot become the leader you were meant to be while replaying the leader you used to be. At some point, you must cut the cord. And the moment you do, everything changes.
Your Next Step Forward-
Identify your "one thing." Name it, own it, release it. Then step into the next chapter of your leadership with clarity, confidence, and purpose. You deserve the freedom that comes when you stop dwelling and start growing. Get over it. Move on. And become who you were meant to be.
- Dean Crisp
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